TNNW UPDATES! [You must read this], August, 2009, Week 4

SUPERCHARGED NETWORKING : TURNING CONTACTS INTO BUSINESS.

AUGUST, 2009, Week 4
UPDATE ISSUE 9 (New Format)
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TNNW UPDATES! [A "must read"]: August, 2009, Week 4

Brand New Stuff, and Renewing Old Promises:

THE NATIONAL NEWSPICKER will be making its arrival. It will have the capability of making you into a current events genius (and give you the appearance of being the smartest guy/ gal in the room) in return for an investment of just 20 minutes per day of your precious time. It will be in a simple, bookmark-sized widget (or is it gadget?) format. It is a prioritized compilation of the top news articles from in excess of 20 publications, and it will be continuously updated throughout the day.

THE NEW WEBSITE AND BLOG FORMAT with navigation tools so easy that your pet ferret will be able to use them will be going live. Unlike Internet Explorer 8 (which is a piece of crap) we will actually improve the quality of your media experience, and your ability to MONETIZE your KNOWLEDGE. On a somber note, we are coordinating among three different platforms: Blogger, Wordpress and the HTML Website. The dicey part is going to be making the final product [cue harp music] as seamless and glitch-free as possible. The nucleus (George W. would likely have pronounced it "nuke-you-lus") of the whole thing will be the website itself (http://www.TheNationalNetworker.com). When we cut the ribbon, you will be able to get to every part and page of the site with the simple tabs on the website. So far, the thing (we actually call it that) is looking smashing, indeed.

THE NEW SPECIAL ITEMS are making their quiet debut (that's French!) in the Newsletter this week. When you get to these items, look for the BLUE THING at top of each one. You may ask yourself (in a schizophrenic moment of insecurity), "What's that BLUE THING doing here?"

TWITTER AND OTHER SOCIAL MEDIA. If you aren't doing it yet, join us (follow us) on Twitter, at http://twitter.com/TNNW_BUZZWORKS. We are very active on social media, and even some anti-social media, as may be required in the circumstances. And while you're at it, become a fan and supporter (we're leaving out an obvious joke here) of THE NATIONAL NETWORKER on our fan page in FACEBOOK. Also, start to follow TNNW's Featured Market Research, Polls, Statistics, Analyses and Implications Expert Scott Gingold on Twitter (he conducts fascinating and informative mini-surveys every day) on Twitter, at http://twitter.com/powerfeedback . We are delighted to have Scott on board.

PRESS AND NEWS RELEASES. In these times, a properly-crafted, optimized and submitted press or news release (we prefer "news release") can literally create a sensation overnight. Dollar for dollar, it is, by far, the most cost-effective form of media domination, penetration and infiltration. There are very fewer investments which you can make which yield such amazing and immediate results. Visit: http://tnnw1.blogspot.com , take a peek, and then come back here to read the Newsletter Articles.





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TNNW -- LEADING THE CHARGE IN THE FIGHT AGAINST PDDS*

*Note: You must read the Newsletter to learn about PDDS, this horrific affliction, and some amazing scientific breakthroughs being financed and sponsored by THE NATIONAL NETWORKER COMPANIES which may lead to a treatment, or perhaps even a cure within our lifetime.

With our Commitment of Yet Even Greater Things to Come,

Adam J. Kovitz and Douglas Castle (who is not quite as important as Adam J. Kovitz)




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THE RE-HUMANIZATION OF NETWORKING: Yossi Feigenson (David) and The European Wall Street Journal (Goliath)

BUSINESS NETWORKING: TEN ESSENTIAL PRINCIPLES
- a corroborative effort of Douglas Castle, Yossi Feigenson and Adam J. Kovitz.


Preamble: This is a commentary within a commentary. The first part (the "container") is the apparent fact that three TNNW authors, acting together in the spirit of mutual respect and genuine cooperation, created some content together for publication in a prestigious publication.



The second part (the "content" within) is a wonderful article about networking, which is one of the world's most frequently used and least understood (not even remotely) terms.



That was the Preamble. And now, to the Amble:



Featured TNNW Columnist Yossi Feigenson (of Real Estate and Other Things of Value) received an invitation from the publishers at the European Wall Street Journal for us to submit a first article from TNNW on the subject of networking, to be released in Europe. After much arm-twisting, Yossi agreed -- being a tough real estate negotiator (although his clients adore him), he felt a need for at least a sporting show of some arm-twisting. The result is a wonderful article, titled "Business Networking: TEN ESSENTIAL PRINCIPLES". It is a collaborative team effort by Douglas Castle, Yossi Feigenson and Adam J. Kovitz. It is an excellent distillation of some great unconventional wisdom. You can download (and even reprint) this article by clicking on http://twitlik.com/WSJArticle .



Thankfully, since I don't suffer from OCD, I will not need to repeat that the article can be downloaded and reprinted at http://twitlik.com/WSJArticle. Thankfully, I did not have to repeat that you should access the article at http://twitlik.com/WSJArticle .



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Faithfully,



Douglas Castle


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THE REHUMANIZATION OF NETWORKING: Walking On Eggshells

The Rehumanization of Networking with Douglas Castle

Whoever You Are:

This is my newly-featured column. Adam J. Kovitz (who loves to see his name in print) appeared to me in a vision and said, "Son, I believe it is time for you to write about whatever you want to write about, instead of the usual insipid, prosaic pap that I force you write about. Go off and build a life for yourself. Make me proud. Try not to be too graphic or use too much profanity."

WALKING ON EGGSHELLS

I have done it. So have you. It feels degrading. It feels like enslavement. It feels embarrassing. It is emotionally exhausting. It robs you of your self-respect. It makes you look foolish to everyone who actually knows you. It takes so much of your time. And what's so very sad about it -- IT ALMOST NEVER WORKS!

Yes. I am speaking (and very quietly, so you have to listen very, very closely and carefully) about walking on eggshells. This is a social ritual where we perceive someone as being so valuable to us that we are prepared to compromise virtually everything, including our time, our opinions, our principles. We meet someone with something we'd like (i.e., investment capital, important contacts, personal fame, a wonderful body for our exploration, a great job opportunity), and we put him/her on a pedestal. We are afraid to ask for anything "prematurely," for fear that it will become obvious to this person that we are "after something." So we begin the dance.

We are inoffensive. We laugh at jokes that we don't think are funny. We "suck up". We stop being who we truly are, are try to become the person we thank that our targeted person would want us to be. We turn into Hoke, and the target person becomes Miss Daisy. Worst...we invest an incredible amount of time "romancing" the target person with absolutely no certainty that we will get that special something we are after. We always have the unsettling feeling that that person might lose interest in us, or stop noticing us, or become disenchanted with us, or think that we are too aggressive -- or, when we finally work up the courage to ask something of them --turn us down.

Here are some unsettling facts:

1. Our target person, no matter how seemingly stupid, invariably senses what we are doing;

2. Our target person actually resents our sycophantic, simpering, cloying conduct, but indulges us out of a sense of pity, entertainment, egomania or good manners;

3. Our target person is absolutely waiting for us to ask for something, or to make some request;

4. Our target person has been through this ritual as many times as we have;

5. Our target person has actually made up his or her mind as to whether or not he or she would like to engage us within the first hour of our acquaintance. With every minute after this, we are wasting time.

My suggestion: Don't ever prostitute yourself unless 1) you know that the other person wants what YOU have to offer and 2) can pay for it. Otherwise...

Do a flamenco on the eggshells at your soonest moment. Treat your targeted hotshot as you would another Human being. If you want something of that person, ASK. And ask soon. You can spend six months kissing up to someone who thinks that you are the quintessential numbskull, and be rejected in six months. Think of the wasted time. Think of all of those lunch and dinner tabs.

Learn to listen to and to trust your instincts about people. If your connection feels good, it is at least a 60% - 40% proposition that you can ask for something reasonable and get it in relatively short order. If your connection feels bad (when the person to whom you are trying to ingratiate yourself is not even making eye contact with you, and is looking around the room for other persons, or is smiling for the camera, or is obviously preoccupied or distracted) it is a 99% - 1% proposition that he or she has no interest in you, or in accommodating you. This is not to say that you should not use your best efforts (and charm, if you've got any) in order to get your target person's undivided attention for long enough to establish a brief Human-to-Human, one-on-one connection. Persistence pays. Ask Madonna, Stallone, Ted Turner, Donald Trump, Oprah, Bill Gates...

But bear in mind that persistence is very different than just "cozying up" (except possibly in the case of Madonna, who was a legendary innovator when it came to actually combining the two). Sometimes you can ask repeatedly, and the target person eventually relents. Be persistent in asking -- not in merely "getting close to greatness." Expedite the trial and error process by breaking the eggshells.

Don't walk on eggshells. Ask for what you want, and ask early on. Life is far too short and far to uncertain to waste a second of it away from the things that actually work. Ask for what you want. Ask early on. If someone says no, ask again. But understand that the game isn't on until you've actually asked.

Thank you, one and all.

Faithfully,

Douglas Castle

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