JetNetting with Heshie Segal
Tips on how to make a positive first impression and an opportunity for self-assessment:
As you read through the lists below rate yourself as you believe others would rate you. Be brutally honest, since personal acknowledgment is the first step to development and growth.
At the end of each segment total your scores and see how you stack up. Thereafter, immediately create an action plan for your self-development.
Become as much as you can be and positive first impressions will become your hallmark and your success.
About Communication 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Be attentive o o o o o o o o o o
Make people feel heard o o o o o o o o o o
Ask intelligent questions o o o o o o o o o o
Ask questions and listen to the answers o o o o o o o o o o
Be an active listener. o o o o o o o o o o
Make restatements – to ensure your understanding o o o o o o o o o o
Seek to understand o o o o o o o o o o
Be empathetic and show your caring o o o o o o o o o o
Be encouraging o o o o o o o o o o
Make and sustain appropriate eye contact o o o o o o o o o o
Be fully engaged o o o o o o o o o o
Be flexible o o o o o o o o o o
Smile o o o o o o o o o o
Be a self-starter o o o o o o o o o o
Be supportive o o o o o o o o o o
Use positive body language o o o o o o o o o o
Be in control of your own communication o o o o o o o o o o
Be reassuring o o o o o o o o o o
Be receptive to the ideas of others o o o o o o o o o o
Be tactful/diplomatic o o o o o o o o o o
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Scores (add each column and multiply it by it’s value
then add all scores together to get a total)
Total Score ___________
About Being 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Be likable o o o o o o o o o o
Be authentic/open/honest/genuine o o o o o o o o o o
Be yourself o o o o o o o o o o
Be accommodating/helpful/cooperative o o o o o o o o o o
Be appreciative and show it o o o o o o o o o o
Be proactive o o o o o o o o o o
Be a problem solver o o o o o o o o o o
Be respectful o o o o o o o o o o
Be confident o o o o o o o o o o
Be consistent o o o o o o o o o o
Be creative/imaginative o o o o o o o o o o
Be curious o o o o o o o o o o
Be courteous/polite/gracious o o o o o o o o o o
Be dynamic/energizing o o o o o o o o o o
Be memorable o o o o o o o o o o
Be friendly/pleasant o o o o o o o o o o
Be welcoming of others o o o o o o o o o o
Be interested vs. interesting o o o o o o o o o o
Let your optimism be evident o o o o o o o o o o
Be decisive o o o o o o o o o o
_ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _ _
Scores (add each column and multiply it by it’s value
then add all scores together to get a total)
Total Score ___________
About Being Your Word 1 2 3 4 5 6 7 8 9 10
Do what you say you will do o o o o o o o o o o
Be dependable o o o o o o o o o o
Only make promises you will keep o o o o o o o o o o
Be on time o o o o o o o o o o
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Scores (add each column and multiply it by it’s value,
then add all scores together to get a total)
Total Score ___________
What do the scores mean?
About Communication
160 – 200 You are clearly a good communicator, externally focused and make a very positive first impression
120 – 159 Keep up the good work, focus on your lowest scores and your first impressions quotient will rise rewardingly
80 – 119 You are in the development stage and might benefit from a communication skills course
40 – 79 Acknowledge yourself for your honesty. You will want to take a very serious look at your weakness and diligently work on growth and improvement. Seek help.
10 – 39 This is an unusually low score and suggests significant trauma that has delayed your communication skills development. You will want to take a very serious look at your weakness and diligently work on growth and improvement. Seek help
About Being
160 – 200 You are clearly comfortable with yourself, congruent in your being and action, and make a very strong and positive first impression
120 – 159 Keep up the good work, focus on your lowest scores, your comfort with self will escalate and your first impression impact will rise rewardingly
80 – 119 You are in the development stage and might benefit from a self development course
40 – 79 Acknowledge yourself for your honesty. You will want to take a very serious look at your weaknesses and diligently work on personal grounding, confidence and comfort. Some great courses and workshops exist that can help you along the way.
10 – 39 This is an unusually low score and suggests significant delayed your personal development (unless it is age related). You will want to take a very serious look at your weakness and diligently work on grounding, self-confidence, growth and improvement. Seek help. Some great courses and workshops exist that can help you along the way.
About being Your Word
36 – 40 You are the pillar of society. This is the first step to make relationships blossom
30 –35 Step yourself up a notch. We either have integrity or we don’t. There is no half way. Go the extra mile
20- 29 You need to decide whether relationships have any value to you. This level score points to a lack of integrity, without which relationships become hard to sustain.
4 – 19 You need to take a long hard look in the mirror and decide what win/win solutions really mean. The implications are you are self-absorbed and have an opportunity to a significantly enhance your relationships (and likely your life) with some effort; if you so choose.
In the next issues in the First Impression Series, I will help you build on the above to make sure the first impression you make becomes a lasting one.
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