GO WEST: Deadly Mistaken Practices Smart People Make- Part II

Go West with Christine M. West, MS, CMHT

To summarize last month thoughts, I stated we reside in a fast touch and go world where social media, symbolic communication and environmental influences shape and model behavior. With that thought in mind, we are aware today of the frantic high speed in which we are moving at and which we are simultaneously inundated with an overwhelming amount of daily information. Everyone we surround ourselves with has a different opinion of how they experience the same information. All people want their opinions validated because it creates a strong sense of belonging and feeling heard. Yet this sense of belonging to an organization, group or a relationship may or may not create the heart-filled prosperous experience that each of us truly desires and deserves. Many are clueless on how to differentiate between what is accommodating and unaccommodating information to their core foundation and purpose. In essence, many sell themselves short from optimal professional and personal living because of FEAR and choose to live in a stagnated box of limitations.

Our nation’s economic status is the effect of a psychological phenomenon named FEAR. Fear affects how we do everything from working, living and playing. To be more specific, fear-based decision-making and behavior at an individual or organizational level will create health issues, increased stress, hesitation, procrastination, excuses, avoidance, failure, insecurity, sabotage, addiction, self-handicapping, unnecessary protection and defense, worry, anxiety, limitations and the surrendering of our Divine Universal power to love, negotiate, succeed, win, be healthy, be alive, be abundantly prosperous and the ability to move toward our core purpose and face obstacles with loving courage.

Life keeps moving and stops for no one. Take a moment to be honest with you. How much of your life are you avoiding and running away from? How many other people do you solicit on a daily basis to validate your excuses, your reasons for why you can’t, your worries, the pain of your past, the anxiety about your future, your failures, your search for someone else to make you happy or your denial of your own FEAR? Where do you stop short of your goals or your dreams? What are you refusing to let go of to live, love, work and play with relentless courage and meaningful purpose?

Psychological research has proven that 88% of people will sabotage their success and dreams because of believing no one will follow because of the FEAR of being lonely, lack of validation, being addicted to the current circumstances and fearing the unknown. Most people find it too risky to have nothing to complain about and being happy. Many believe life would be boring if they stopped the train of pain and started to eat from the fruit of their own heart. We need to accept and digest this hardcore fact that the fear of distress is actually worse than the distress itself. We all have a treasure inside of ourselves that is longing to be lived out.

I realized we all have generations of conditioning to work through. Facing each fear and obstacle to in order to obtain a dream takes true persistence and perseverance. It is easier to be among the living dead instead of awaking and living with a soulful presence and acting with courage. Yet to experience happiness and to manifest heart-filled wealth, each and every one of us is required to be brave enough to unlearn these fear-based strategies and learn to be courageous. When we have the courage to unconditionally love ourselves, we discover an intuitive heightened trust and faith in all that we do. We no longer need to be validated by anything other than the results we are receiving our life, our-self and our Divine Source. We are free to succeed and move toward our dreams with an enlightened power to live, work and play while acting out relentless loving courage.

Genuinely,

Christine

Author: Christine M. West, TheBusinessMD, 2240 E. Tudor Rd. #976, Anchorage, Alaska, USA 99507. Phone 1-907-223-8403. Email: info@thebusinessmd.net, http://www.businessmd.net/ http://thebusinessmd.blogspot.com/ Christine West is an industrial organizational psychology practitioner and is in private practice as TheBusinessMD which helps organizations and individuals overcome fear and explore the power of change. Ms. West is also a Featured Columnist for the National Networker http://www.thenationalnetworker.com/


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THE PSYCHOLOGY OF NETWORKING: Deadly Mistaken Practices Smart People Make- Part I

The Psychology of Networking

with Christine M. West, MS, CMHT

We reside in a fast touch and go world where social media, symbolic communication and environmental influences shape and model behavior. People are social creatures who by natural self-means are organized, reflective, regulated and proactive as opposed to reactive organisms to the environment. Social systems dominate the road for human advancement and adaptation. Human beings represent the created product of each and every social system. Human beings continually learn, influence and model the behavior in their social system. This is the very reason why these human social networks have power.

Many of today’s social systems have conditioned many smart people to deadly practices that result in missed opportunities, superficial relationships, mistaken assessments, wish-washy outcomes, stagnation and a limited relationship with prosperity. It is our responsibility to become aware if our social system is pulling us up or dragging us down.

The following are mistaken practices that many smart people make:

1. People want to succeed yet their fear fuels resistance which stops the required changes to take place. For success to progress the new behavior needs to be congruently aligned with the other pieces and parts of the person, group and environment, otherwise regression probably will take place.

If a person is involved in a social system that continually feeds limitations and fear, the individual is faced with a choice to either leave the social system or allow regression to take place and be pulled back into a limited environment.

The overall strength in successful change is derived from group work. The change spreads with group willingness and agreement.

If an individual really wants to strive for more, then is better to find a social group to pull us up to a new level of success.

2. Many lack a clear focus. We can focus on what is or what is not working. We can also focus on what we believe in or do not believe in. Winning scenarios focus on learning to use the tools and resources available in the moment. Often this requires innovation, compromise and adjustments to occur. The key to success is to focus on what you really want and let go of the rest.

3. Many smart people give into their limitations and stop learning. The energy we place on our self-created limitations results in us believing that everyone we encounter lives in the same limited box we do. We think everyone perceives our situation in the same light also. We believe if we cannot find a solution then no one can. We believe we are the end all be all and think we have climbed to the highest plateau. Yet our greatest mistake is failing to pay attention to what we could truly find out from another. The funny piece of this equation is we deny prosperity and signs that could help us. We need to adopt the courage to get out of our own way and start listening and asking open-ended questions.

4. We need to allow ourselves to model what we want. This means the human being is required to pay attention, observe and through a heightened awareness new behaviors are accessible for espousal and installation. The new behaviors include innovative creativity to perceive the world from a different view that includes expanded cognitive ability, advancement in linguistic communication and improvements to regulate and motivate one’s attitude and demeanor.

The process of observational learning creates shifts in behavior, thinking patterns and learning new knowledge. Modeling has strong motivational effects because people want the same success as experienced in another. Values and beliefs play an influencing role with motivation. The value a person assigns to the perceived outcome along with the belief to reach the outcome is determined by the relationship between the value and the outcome and the relationship between the belief and the outcome.

So therefore if we value what we believe and belief in our own value, then we will soon see we are an effect of our beliefs. The choice is ours, we will always see what we believe in and value.

In closing Part I, our choices of the past have created our circumstance of today. It is healthy acknowledge this fact and to learn from the past. Yet it is unhealthy to live in circumstances that cannot be changed. Life occurs in the present and paying to now has great reward and meaningful purpose. Precious gifts exist in the present moment if we only will allow ourselves to stay focused in the here and now.

Genuinely,

Christine

Author: Christine M. West, TheBusinessMD, 2240 E. Tudor Rd. #976, Anchorage, Alaska, USA 99507. Phone 1-907-223-8403. Email: info@thebusinessmd.net, http://www.businessmd.net/ http://thebusinessmd.blogspot.com/ TheBusinessMD offers transformational services to assist better human relationships in the workplace. Ms. West is also a Featured Columnist for the National Networker http://www.thenationalnetworker.com/
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