MANAGING YOUR CAREER: The Enemy Within

Managing Your Career with Estelle H. Rauch, LSCW, CGP

The current hostile political climate is having its impact on the family, as Dad (or maybe Mom) intensely is supportive of "tea party" conservatism, while the other adult passionately pontificates for the health care bill and other liberal causes. Their kids are caught in the middle. Who's "right," they wonder?

It's a wonderful time for calm to prevail, and for the adults to acknowledge that complex issues are impossible to define in black and white, right vs. wrong terms. We were once a nation where such perspectives was possible. These days, only rarely can a friend who is on one side appreciate the other's point of view.

As a therapist working with couples and families, I have opted for an appreciation of the other, without which families cannot possibly come together for what should be their key objective: collaboration for the common good.

Countries are multiple families, of course with vastly more complexities. But countries should still be guided by the same motivation: respect for difference in their collaboration for the common good.

We may have temporarily lost our way, much like the couple who comes to see me, furious over some issue or other. As with that couple, there is room for optimism.

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Managing Your Career with Estelle H. Rauch, LSCW, CGP

Extended unemployment for the primary breadwinner can be accompanied by lowered self-esteem, loss of position within the family, and in the most severe instances, of mental health. Psychotherapists working with couples overwhelmed with the problems associated with this crisis at times neglect the potentially serious impact on the lives of their dependent children.

'Jamie,' 14, whispered to me, "Can I talk to you," when I emerged with her parents following their session. After receiving her parents' permission, I listened as Jaime guiltily reported her father's nightly drinking, parents' loud fighting, and her own beginning bulimia and self-cutting behavior - all to reduce her unmanageable tension.

Matthew, 9, in another family, drew such disturbing pictures in his 3rd grade class that his teacher referred the family to the community's mental health clinic. Parents were both out of work, their home in foreclosure. His father had left the family to return to his parents' home in Georgia, where the man had found some off-the-books work with relatives. No one had helped either Matthew or his 4 year old sister comprehend the rapidly deteriorating family situation.

During the recent severe economic downturn, I have worked with several families struggling with consequences following extended unemployment. I try to help each person appreciate the pain, fear and often displaced frustration and anger undermining self-esteem and ultimately poisoning the family environment. Therapy's objective: to reduce fear and dangerous behaviors while activating each individual's healthy energy for problem-solving, while paying serious attention to the children, who, in my opinion, should always be a part of therapeutic thinking, and at times, of intervention.

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A NOTE FROM THE CHAIRMAN: More New TNNW Faces in 2010

We are committed to bringing you the best content on the web. Last month, we introduced seven new writers to our staff. This week, we introduce two of four new writers this first month of 2010.

First up is Estelle H. Rauch, LSCW, CGP with Managing Your Career, in which she will be focusing on advise and trends in the challenging world of career management and employment. Estelle is a practicing psychotherapist and Co-Founder of Career Strategies Unlimited. WELCOME ESTELLE!!!

Secondly is Michael Phillips with his new article, The Postillion. Mike is an independent consultant out of the greater Tampa area with a knack for the latest technology and social media trends and their impact, which he will be covering each month. Mike has worked for several noteworthy clients, is involved with community activism, has been congratulated in Washington, DC by President Bill Clinton and has received the Significant Act Reward by the Department of the Army. WELCOME MIKE!!!

In the next two weeks, we will be bringing you two more noteworthy writers. Stay tuned!

All my best,

Adam






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MANAGING YOUR CAREER: The Older Worker Strikes Back

Managing Your Career
with Estelle Rauch, LSCW, CGP

Recently out-of-work professionals over forty-five have found themselves under exceptional stress. They have typically been high performers and spent accordingly. They have families to support, and often high mortgages and other financial commitments eating into savings. The latest AARP magazine reports this group, finding jobs very hard to get, are increasingly venturing into the self-employment world, which we all know poses its own hazards.

What skills and resources are required to make this shift? Even the highly motivated must face his need for upgrading skills, for making some financial investment, for tolerating a significant period in which he is not likely to see income. He must be realistic about his skills, but also be able to read the market: is there a real need for his product or service? Does he know anything about merchandising? About using the internet to expand contacts? Psychologically used to being in charge of others, he now is faced with needing to ask for help himself, and often from younger people. What is his capacity to emotionally cope with this new reality?

During this venture, what emotional and financial support can this person count on from his family? Their response to the family crisis is high up on the factors impinging on outcome of any new venture.

But with all these caveats, self-employment can be freeing, creative, energizing.

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